I fully understand why you would say that , and I am very torn over it. I have a friend that I have sex with and he has fucked my wife several times. next time we are together I plan on having sex with him while she watches. you see I have always felt guilty about what I have been doing, and I want to be honest with her. it will be difficult , but I have to do it.
If you dislike dishonest people then maybe you should tell your wife.