I Want To Meet This Guy

[ready2]

I have a problem here.

I'm married and met the former employer of my wife's sister who happens to be gay and has a partner.

The man is a doctor and I find him attractive.

I want to send him an e-mail asking if he would be interested in a threesome but leaving my name off it until we meet.

I want to do it with this man really bad but am afraid what might happen when he realizes who I am as my wife is unaware that I long for other men.

My wife and my wife's sister have no contact with him and for all I know, he might be willing to let me join in.

Any suggestions?

[TaylorMade]

Don't do it. It will end in pain and a potential divorce.

*Taylor*

[Cherokee_Mountaincat]

You'd rsik losing your wife And sister over a fling with a guy who is already In a relationship and who may or may Not welcome you into a 3some?
Dude, what're you smoking? Quit thinking with the little head, and get back to reality.:rolleyes:
Cat

[citystyleguy]

You'd rsik losing your wife And sister over a fling with a guy who is already In a relationship and who may or may Not welcome you into a 3some?
Dude, what're you smoking? Quit thinking with the little head, and get back to reality.:rolleyes:
Cat

amen to this suggestion, my friend; you are heading into way too much drama!

[fredtyg]

I'm a bit more sympathetic to your situation than the others seem to be as I know how it is as you get older and want to make the most out of the time you have left. That said, they are correct that it could cause problems with your home life if things don't work out right.

On the practical side of meeting the guy, I'd say an e-mail sent anonymously would very likely be ignored. I don't know that I would respond to some anonymous message asking to meet for sex. Would you?

I suppose it's easy for me to suggest but I think I'd try and find a private moment to meet with the guy and simply tell him you find him attractive and are interested in him. If he says he and his boyfriend might want to play with you, problem solved. If he says no, look elsewhere.

If you're worried about him telling your wife or her sister about you, that will be a problem, regardless, and you'll just have to take your chances.

[HappyHedonic]

The only way this could work would be if you came out to all parties involved and had the blessings of your wife and her sister, and then if the doctor was willing to open his relationship with his partner. How likely is that?

When people cheat, someone always gets hurt, usually the person being cheated on. I think most spouses would handle their partner coming out of the closet better than finding their partner in the closet and cheating on them.