Im curious if your sex drive as a man slowed as U got older and age as im 63 & still

[tongueteaser]

I hear some ladies complain and even guys that they have ED issues from certain illnesses and other stuff. Also they lose their sex drive or cravings and maybe no drive. I am 64 and still horny to say the least. I still am hard morning and night and throbbing for release. I like to please as much as get when horny. I cant sleep most nights if I dont climax to relax me. Thing is I am single and need a woman with sexual desires and cravings. Seems no woman want sex at this age and a younger healthy girl dont want an older man it seems. So are you older and still on a roll sexually or did things peter out. What age may I ask or medical condition?

[RisingBi]

I'm a little younger than you, as I just turned 60, but my sex drive is still strong, but it's only for men these days. I'm still attracted to women, but since I broke up with my last girlfriend just before Covid hit, from a very rocky three-year relationship, I'm only interested in guys for sex and love.

During my relationship with her, I had some problems orgasming because of meds, and when they were switched it was better, but not 100%. I guess you could say my stamina is still very long, but that becomes a problem with guys, because gay sex is all about eventually cumming, and sometimes I am unable.

I generally don't have erection problems though. But I did when I was trying to fuck this guy during the pandemic. I was hard as a rock throughout all the one hour foreplay, with lots of cocksucking, 69, and tons of my tonguefuckingu and fingerfucking his asshole. But then I was struggling with getting the condom wrapper open for such a long time because my hands were so slippery with saliva that I lost my erection. Then I got so self-conscious about it: every time I went to insert my cock it wasn't hard enough to insert. Once you're in your head like that, and feeling embarrassed, then there's little hope. That was the first time that happened to me with a guy (I am so super horny and crazy passionate when I'm with a guy, so much so that with the way things are going now, I'm thinking I'm much more gay than I ever thought I was). But then when we tried again the following week, I was all self-conscious, and the same thing happened, even though I had the condom ready to go.

Another time earlier this year I was with a bi guy who had never swallowed a guy's cum and really wanted to try it, so I told him I'll happily cum in his mouth. But because it takes a long time and lots of stimulation for me to cum, and he was in a hurry (I like being in bed with a guy for hours), after I swallowed his load, he was done, and angry. But I never thought that the one time I was fucking his mouth was the only time. I like going back-and-forth when I'm having oral sex with a guy. And this was our first time together so aren't we supposed to take a little time to figure out each other and what we like, etc. But he was all about getting me out of his place.

When I was young my issue was more about trying not to ejaculate prematurely--too soon. But one time, when I was in my late 30s perhaps, a guy and I are taking turns sucking each other's cocks, and I was really trying to use my pelvic muscles to prevent myself from cumming, until I came to a point where I just had no more urge to cum, and we sucked each other's cocks for two hours, and it was the most bliss I'd ever felt with another person. After he finally let loose, he kept trying to get me to reach orgasm, using his mouth, but I wasn't able to cum, and in fact felt like I could easily go for days with a guy sucking my cock without the need to cum, just in sexual bliss the whole time. But I really wanted to give him the joy of making me cum, which every guy shares with another guy. So I felt really bad that I couldn't give him my orgasm, let alone my seed, the sharing of which has now become a very big part of what I desire with another man, giving and receiving each other's essence--orally, and hopefully soon, when I go on PrEP and finally give up the stupid condom, anally.

After that I practised that sort of pelvic thing other times. Maybe that's what's got me to the place where it's hard to cum. But I think it's also partially because I'm still on an antidepressant that affects my ability to orgasm a little bit still. Even masturbating it takes me a long time to cum, and I can easily go 10 hours, 20 hours, even 30 hours or more nonstop, with my cock constantly hard, pre-cum rolling out of the tip, on the edge of orgasm, without needing to go over, just in that beautiful sexual bliss place again.

But I do have to say that the last couple of years if I take my mind too far out of a fantasy place while stroking my cock for hours, I lose my erection. For example my cock is soft right now as I dictate this, even though I'm stroking it. The mental aspect, whether alone, or with another guy, is a big component with sex for me.

So, the bottom line is that we men over 60, and even younger, do have cock issues more than when we were younger--cock issues of the erectile and orgasm (premature orgasm or unable to orgasm) variety. And there are a whole bunch of factors that affect that. It is perfectly normal, whether your partner is your wife, girlfriend, husband, boyfriend, fuck or suck buddy, or a stranger. But especially when it's someone that you at least care about a little bit, it shouldn't matter as much. If the person really cares about you, then being sexual together can involve many different things to go around any disfunction you might have, or they have. If it is a big deal with your partner, then you're with the wrong person, in my opinion. Be with the right person. But I also don't advocate cheating on a partner. But everyone has to figure that out for themselves.

[tongueteaser]

I'm a little younger than you, as I just turned 60, but my sex drive is still strong, but it's only for men these days. I'm still attracted to women, but since I broke up with my last girlfriend just before Covid hit, from a very rocky three-year relationship, I'm only interested in guys for sex and love.

During my relationship with her, I had some problems orgasming because of meds, and when they were switched it was better, but not 100%. I guess you could say my stamina is still very long, but that becomes a problem with guys, because gay sex is all about eventually cumming, and sometimes I am unable.

I generally don't have erection problems though. But I did when I was trying to fuck this guy during the pandemic. I was hard as a rock throughout all the one hour foreplay, with lots of cocksucking, 69, and tons of my tonguefuckingu and fingerfucking his asshole. But then I was struggling with getting the condom wrapper open for such a long time because my hands were so slippery with saliva that I lost my erection. Then I got so self-conscious about it: every time I went to insert my cock it wasn't hard enough to insert. Once you're in your head like that, and feeling embarrassed, then there's little hope. That was the first time that happened to me with a guy (I am so super horny and crazy passionate when I'm with a guy, so much so that with the way things are going now, I'm thinking I'm much more gay than I ever thought I was). But then when we tried again the following week, I was all self-conscious, and the same thing happened, even though I had the condom ready to go.

Another time earlier this year I was with a bi guy who had never swallowed a guy's cum and really wanted to try it, so I told him I'll happily cum in his mouth. But because it takes a long time and lots of stimulation for me to cum, and he was in a hurry (I like being in bed with a guy for hours), after I swallowed his load, he was done, and angry. But I never thought that the one time I was fucking his mouth was the only time. I like going back-and-forth when I'm having oral sex with a guy. And this was our first time together so aren't we supposed to take a little time to figure out each other and what we like, etc. But he was all about getting me out of his place.

When I was young my issue was more about trying not to ejaculate prematurely--too soon. But one time, when I was in my late 30s perhaps, a guy and I are taking turns sucking each other's cocks, and I was really trying to use my pelvic muscles to prevent myself from cumming, until I came to a point where I just had no more urge to cum, and we sucked each other's cocks for two hours, and it was the most bliss I'd ever felt with another person. After he finally let loose, he kept trying to get me to reach orgasm, using his mouth, but I wasn't able to cum, and in fact felt like I could easily go for days with a guy sucking my cock without the need to cum, just in sexual bliss the whole time. But I really wanted to give him the joy of making me cum, which every guy shares with another guy. So I felt really bad that I couldn't give him my orgasm, let alone my seed, the sharing of which has now become a very big part of what I desire with another man, giving and receiving each other's essence--orally, and hopefully soon, when I go on PrEP and finally give up the stupid condom, anally.

After that I practised that sort of pelvic thing other times. Maybe that's what's got me to the place where it's hard to cum. But I think it's also partially because I'm still on an antidepressant that affects my ability to orgasm a little bit still. Even masturbating it takes me a long time to cum, and I can easily go 10 hours, 20 hours, even 30 hours or more nonstop, with my cock constantly hard, pre-cum rolling out of the tip, on the edge of orgasm, without needing to go over, just in that beautiful sexual bliss place again.

But I do have to say that the last couple of years if I take my mind too far out of a fantasy place while stroking my cock for hours, I lose my erection. For example my cock is soft right now as I dictate this, even though I'm stroking it. The mental aspect, whether alone, or with another guy, is a big component with sex for me.

So, the bottom line is that we men over 60, and even younger, do have cock issues more than when we were younger--cock issues of the erectile and orgasm (premature orgasm or unable to orgasm) variety. And there are a whole bunch of factors that affect that. It is perfectly normal, whether your partner is your wife, girlfriend, husband, boyfriend, fuck or suck buddy, or a stranger. But especially when it's someone that you at least care about a little bit, it shouldn't matter as much. If the person really cares about you, then being sexual together can involve many different things to go around any disfunction you might have, or they have. If it is a big deal with your partner, then you're with the wrong person, in my opinion. Be with the right person. But I also don't advocate cheating on a partner. But everyone has to figure that out for themselves.

You sound very exciting no matter what. Ii love sucking so I would have no problem sucking you slow, gentle and easy and make it last. Its exciting tasting and feeling a cock in my mouth. The cum is a plus though. One day I will find the right guy to top me first time. Thanks for the nice and in depth reply Sir.

[blatant_bi_guy]

I'm 50.

If anything my sex drive has gone into another gear. It was already high, but it switched into 4WD Low for more torque.

[phalluster]

I'm same age as you and my sex drive is same as it has always been. My wife, on the other hand, has the typical sex drive of an older woman so she is happy with sex once a week. Like you, I can barely sleep unless I cum first. Good thing for me is I have always enjoyed masturbating and although overall I'd rather fuck my wife it's not that much better than a good bate session. And similar to many men on this forum, I bate mostly to cocks in a man to man setting.

[Grant_Norman]

Very ED but even more oral for guys or girls. Love both gobs of cum and plenty of vaginal juices. Has only gotten more intense as I age.

Grant

[licyou69]

I keep myself physically fit and eat well. I can still get a really nice hard on and get a nice load off. Hormone levels come and go though, so sometimes I want sex and sometimes I could care less. My running and cycling seem to burn some of those hormones away. They start to return after I've rested for a couple of days.

[chiefconsultant63]

Very old with ED for decades unfortunately due to diabetes and meds. My sex drive is huge though. I am horny all the time and since I cannot fuck I resort (and love it) to oral activites. I don't get much if any pussy so I focus more on getting a dick in my mouth and occasionally up my ass.

[Modude]

These days ( I'm 61 btw ) my sex drive is something like a roller coaster, it's always up and down. The reason is I have low testosterone and take a shot once a month, it revs my sex drive up for 2-3 weeks then as my level drops, I start feeling tired, my mood gets dark and my sex drive bottoms out. Next month, same thing....up and down, another issue for me is that my wife ( who I love dearly ) has started suffering from depression and anxiety as she's gotten older and and also deals with physical pain from several issues. Most of what she talks about is about how bad she hurts or how her depression is bothering her, so even though I still want to be with her, I don't want to push her into doing something she doesn't feel like doing. Plus, hearing her constantly talk about how bad she feels doesn't exactly get me excited,hot, and horny,
It really kinda takes me down to where she is......

[dickneeder]

No. If anything since I've totally embraced my love for cock I'd say it's increased.

[KDaddy23]

I'm 67 and still willing and able to have sex...

[Man for Man]

I'm 66 and I've noticed over the last year or so my drive isn't as strong as it was. That is likely related to a medication I'm taking for prostate, am actually thinking of going off it, as it's primarily for not waking up at night to pee so often...lol. I still have the sexual urge, but my erection isn't as strong and it is hard to come to an orgasm. Masterbation, which has never been an easy fix for me, is now almost impossible. I'm going to go off the med's for a month to see if it makes a difference, hopefully it will as my friend (with benefits) and I are going on a month long trip together. Regardless I have his body to enjoy!

[papasmurph]

I'm also 66 and these last several years have seen an increase in my sex drive - but the change I am seeing is that it takes me too long to cum sometimes. I don't enjoy jerking off and even sometimes it just takes too long for me when I am with a partner. However, I am very williing to please my partner orally or anally, if he wishes to receive a blowjob or mount me. I don't seem to need to cum - it feels good, though. I get an erection - sometimes it isn't easy to maintain one - it depends on the action going on in the room with me... A friend told me that porn does that to your mind - I dont' know. maybe it's just part of growing older

[sissyjackie]

65 here and I am on a bunch of meds plus I have very low testosterone levels. The last 10 years my drive is going down, but my desire is still there. I just had ED