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[Celtiff2106]

Hello all.
I kinda feel odd talking about this but here goes....
I am bi (duh), husband is straight. I have never "been" with a woman. I have done some light making out but that is it. I would really like to explore my options but I am a very monogomus creature by nature. If I were to explore my options as it were, I would rather do it in an actual relationship with the person. I think he would be ok with it but I am not sure what to do.
I am open to any suggestions that you think may help.
Thanks all! :eek2:

[swag85]

well you have a couple options in my oppinion, Swinging, witch is stricly sexual, or polyamoury. witch is having feelings for more than one person. both of those will take alot of work and understanding from both sides, google them if you are not familliar with them. hope this helped a bit.
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[JrzGuy3]

I would say the first thing you need to do is raise this concern with dear hubby. You seem to suggest he is supportive, so I'd talk to him and see what he thinks. You have many options (Swag alluded to a few) and the goal is to find one which will have a healthy place in your relationships with yourself and with him.

Now you said that you would like something in the context of a relationship; this is somewhere you have a very wide range of options. First of all, a relationship could be many things (ranging from a casual friendship with a childhood pal to a full on marriage to another person). What you should probably find out pretty early on is how deep an emotional connection exactly are you looking for with this other girl; 'just' a friend, or a deeper connection like you with your husband? I think it would be important to consider this question and bring it up wiht your husband as well.

Best of luck!

-Jrz

[arana]

I agree with JrzGuy3, the first thing is to talk to your husband. You said you "think" he would be ok with it, but never assume. Tell him your feelings and talk everything out. Set up some ground rules so that there are no surprises down the road. You don't want any misunderstandings and always communicate with each other. Then you go from there in trying to find someone compatible. In my opinion I would look for someone I could become friends with first if I was looking for more than a fling. Then build to a relationship from there.

Good luck to you!

[taz67156]

I agree with Arana and Jrz that you need to talk with your hubby about it first cause he might or might not like the idea of you doing that so check with him before doing anything else.

good luck
taz67156