Fucked up Experience!!! (Gay Dating Apps)

[JaredT77]

Does anyone ever use those gay or lesbian dating apps on their smart phones or tablets?

I was on a gay dating app called GROWLr and I came across this black guy with a profile screen name of 4 WHITE CHASERS. Real name is Mike and yes I'm putting this fucker out there. He contacted me by saying "Hi." So I responded back and we had a really great conversation of him wanting to fuck me at his place. We exchanged phone numbers. He said his partner prefers younger men but I asked him if he meant if he's partner prefers younger men like me or younger men than me. So Mike told me that his partner preferred younger men than me and I asked if he's partner wouldn't mind if Mike fucked me while he was home too.

Honestly, I get those guys that want to fuck me but they don't want to fuck me with their roommates home, even if their roommates are gay. So what's the harm in asking, right? This guy even asked me if I would like to move in with them since my new job is not too far from where they live. I haven't even met this guy and he's asking me to move in with him, or them actually.

So after I asked Mike if his partner would mind if Mike and I had sex with him home and Mike got all defensive about how I keep on asking for confirmation. He might have been pissed that it was on a Sunday but I wasn't available that day so I asked Monday but we settled on Tuesday. So Mike kept on getting pissed off about me asking him, so I apologized to him but he kept on biting my head off. This was all said through text messaging, by the way. So I told Mike that this was a bad idea and sorry to have bothered him and that I will not bother him any further. Mike said that I only have myself to thank for this, so I told him he was right that I didn't meet a asshole like him. Then I blocked him from my phone and blocked his profile on GROWLr.

Later on that night when I was at a friend's house, Mike tried calling me 41 TIMES!!!! 41 times until I finally talked to the crazy fucker on the phone and told the piece of shit off. I responded back on maybe the 5th time he called where he began by cursing me out so I hung up on him. The fucker called with NO CALLER ID so I couldn't block him, by the way. Finally after a little over a hour later and on the 41st time, I talked to the son of a bitch and cursed his ass out. He threatened to send pictures to my mother and expose me for being bisexual.

NEWS FLASH: My ex-wife threatened to blackmail me with the same thing but it never worked for her.

The other thing I found amusing was that Mike was calling gay men in the military fags. Ummm, if Mike is gay, how can he bash gay men and women in the military? If you ask me, gay men and women in the military are better people than this fucking hypocrite psycho!

So after talking to this psycho fuck, he never did call me again or did he try to expose my bisexuality to my mother. Just a crazy fucker that was all talk no action. And yes, I am thanking myself and God for not meeting this guy. No telling what might have happened if I did. I called my finace and told her about this crazy fucked up experience and told her that I was done trying to meet men for sex. She said that she is fine either way and would support me regardless. Then later on that night into the early morning at 3AM, this nice guy named Dave texted me if I had any luck meeting guys so I told him about Mike. Dave really sympathized with me as I vented my frustrations and the next day, Dave and I are talking about getting together and we have been texting for a whole week.

So, maybe this coming week after having a "Hall Pass" from my fiance for almost 2 months, I might actually have sex with another man like Dave. I deleted all my profiles from these gay dating apps but I might always go back. Just sick and tired of other people's drama on those apps. I have enough baby mama drama from the ex and the drama with being in a open long distance relationship with my fiance.

So wish me luck and hopefully I meet up with Dave to give me a long needed fuck. Tomorrow marks 2 years since I have been fucked by a man and might meet Dave tomorrow on his day off. It's also my ex's birthday. And yes, after she said she wanted a divorce a few days prior and that she didn't want me home on her birthday, I had sex with a man that day in a hotel room.

If anybody has had a similar fucked up experience with these dating apps, please feel free to share. And please be careful and go with your gut feeling.

[sysper]

honestly this makes me nervous about meeting a guy online especially if i have never been with a guy. makes me not wanna try. although i know there are good guys out there who i would be able to have a great 1st experiance with. i guess that's another thing to be carefull about. sorry u had to have such a bad experiance. hope u have fun with dave, after 2 years & this experiance u deserve it :)

[JaredT77]

honestly this makes me nervous about meeting a guy online especially if i have never been with a guy. makes me not wanna try. although i know there are good guys out there who i would be able to have a great 1st experiance with. i guess that's another thing to be carefull about. sorry u had to have such a bad experiance. hope u have fun with dave, after 2 years & this experiance u deserve it :)

Don't give up. There are still are good guys out there and my fiance is also looking for guys where she lives so when I move up there, she will have guys waiting to fuck me. She already has 2 potential bisexual men that are very well hung. I have never had a guy that was that crazy and a sore loser because I went with my gut instincts not to meet him. Mike calling me 41 times to try telling me off proved why I am glad I didn't meet him to fuck me. But don't give up sysper, when you meet that first guy you might or might not enjoy your first time with a guy. But don't ever give up if having sex with men is what you want. I'm not giving up because of a few bad apples with drama issues.

[fredtyg]

The thing is, no matter how you go about meeting guys, there's always a chance of bumping into flakes and weirdos. I've never done any of the phone apps but have a few unpleasant experiences with other means.

Had one guy I contacted via the Yahoo Groups (Clubs back then) years ago. He looked good on the screen but I like to talk to guys on the phone first, if only to get a feel for them. I gave him my phone number, he called me, and I thought he came off as a flake so backed out of meeting. He ended up calling my home phone off and on for six months whenever he was horny. I use my cell phone for that now but that was before cell phones were common place.

Had another guy I met thru Criagslist years later. This was from an ad I posted in the Strictly Platonic section, no less. I don't think we'd exchanged more than two e-mails before the started trying to set up a meet for sex. Not only that, but he was really pushy telling me right from the start if my wife didn't approve of me seeing other guys we should get divorced and getting all pissed off at things I'd write, such as referring to myself as a fag. He felt I was being rude and discriminatory when I described myself as a fag.

What a jerk! I was trying to be polite and was hoping he'd stop e-mailing on his own. Luckily, the guy was all pissed off and finally told me he was shutting off all communication with me. I was like, THANK GOD! Later, asshole! Although I didn't reply that to him. Just glad he was gone.

[JaredT77]

The thing is, no matter how you go about meeting guys, there's always a chance of bumping into flakes and weirdos. I've never done any of the phone apps but have a few unpleasant experiences with other means.

Had one guy I contacted via the Yahoo Groups (Clubs back then) years ago. He looked good on the screen but I like to talk to guys on the phone first, if only to get a feel for them. I gave him my phone number, he called me, and I thought he came off as a flake so backed out of meeting. He ended up calling my home phone off and on for six months whenever he was horny. I use my cell phone for that now but that was before cell phones were common place.

Had another guy I met thru Criagslist years later. This was from an ad I posted in the Strictly Platonic section, no less. I don't think we'd exchanged more than two e-mails before the started trying to set up a meet for sex. Not only that, but he was really pushy telling me right from the start if my wife didn't approve of me seeing other guys we should get divorced and getting all pissed off at things I'd write, such as referring to myself as a fag. He felt I was being rude and discriminatory when I described myself as a fag.

What a jerk! I was trying to be polite and was hoping he'd stop e-mailing on his own. Luckily, the guy was all pissed off and finally told me he was shutting off all communication with me. I was like, THANK GOD! Later, asshole! Although I didn't reply that to him. Just glad he was gone.

Yeah I swear, why do men have to flake out and get weird when all you're trying to do is look for fun and a good time and hopefully some type of relationship? It doesn't have to be serious but like a FWB or a fuckbuddy.

This one guy that I was talking to was talking about wanting me to go gay and fall in love with him. Was only chatting with him for a few hours and he said he wanted me all to himself even though I'm engaged to be married. He was getting way too weird too fast so had to block him.

Then after him, I have been chatting with this older gay couple for a few weeks. Both are tops and looking to share a bottom guy like me. The only time they would text me was if I text them first by sending pictures and videos. They were out of town, own a boat, and a couple places in Central Florida including a condo in Titusville where I live. That weekend after Christmas, they were checking out my profile but never contacted me. I told them that I will be available to them all weekend whenever they wanted to meet and fuck me. I finally sent them a few videos of me fucking myself and they replied back that they wish they could do that to me. I told them that I am available that day but then they were telling me that I was not committed to meeting them and just teasing. WHAT THE FUCK DOES IT TAKE TO TELL THEM TO FUCK ME?!!!! So I pretty much told them that I feel like they were doing the same to me. So when they started saying negative shit, I told them that I am sorry to have bother them and won't bother them anymore. Then the next day, I had that scary issue with the psycho.

I'm glad that I'm not the only one that has had issues with trying to meet men. I thought about going to the gay bars but not into the bar/club scenes anymore but might actually try them in the near future.

Honestly, I can post naked pictures of myself or share them with people, but I am shy about meeting strangers, especially if these strangers are going to fuck me. I really do enjoy being passive and getting fucked but it's a very vulnerable moment for me of being submissive to another man and even woman if she's going to fuck me.

But yeah, don't give up either fredtyg.

[fredtyg]

I get really nervous meeting strangers, at least pre- arranged meetings such as "hook ups". That's why I prefer to chat a bit with e-mail and then the phone to see if I feel comfortable with the guy.

I'm not real comfortable in social situations, but the good thing about gay bars is you see who you're dealing with up front. The down side to that is you could just as easily have a flake come on to you in a gay bar and he might not be so easily gotten away from as he would be on a computer.

I've actually been pretty happy with most of the contacts I've made through the Craigslist m4m Strictly Platonic ads. I'd advertise as not looking for sex, although it would be a possibility if we hit it off. I mostly just want to chat about queer stuff as we do here, albeit with someone more local. Had some good responses and enjoyable, albeit short lived, discussions with a number of guys.

Biggest problem seemed to be most of the guys who seem interested in the same thing are scared to death of being found out. They don't chat much and, if they do, it's just a few words here and there.

[JaredT77]

I get really nervous meeting strangers, at least pre- arranged meetings such as "hook ups". That's why I prefer to chat a bit with e-mail and then the phone to see if I feel comfortable with the guy.

I'm not real comfortable in social situations, but the good thing about gay bars is you see who you're dealing with up front. The down side to that is you could just as easily have a flake come on to you in a gay bar and he might not be so easily gotten away from as he would be on a computer.

I've actually been pretty happy with most of the contacts I've made through the Craigslist m4m Strictly Platonic ads. I'd advertise as not looking for sex, although it would be a possibility if we hit it off. I mostly just want to chat about queer stuff as we do here, albeit with someone more local. Had some good responses and enjoyable, albeit short lived, discussions with a number of guys.

Biggest problem seemed to be most of the guys who seem interested in the same thing are scared to death of being found out. They don't chat much and, if they do, it's just a few words here and there.

I feel the same way as you do. I like to chat and get to know someone before actually meeting up with someone. Especially if it comes to sex. I think it's normal to ask questions, but apparently I might have offended that dumbass Mike. And I was talking to him about my frustrations of other guys and their drama.

I am kinda nervous about the bar scene because what if they're not gay or bisexual and just looking to commit a hate crime with me as the victim? What if they're some creep with STDs and looking to have sex and don't care if they infect me? What if they're the type that wants to kill me after sex? It's just more scarier than the online chatting.

[rockhard123]

I guess I have be lucky have meet a bad one yet
an i have meet a few bbc an wow they sure know how to take a sissie

[JaredT77]

I guess I have be lucky have meet a bad one yet
an i have meet a few bbc an wow they sure know how to take a sissie

I'm glad that you have had nothing but good experiences.

[jackofbothtrades]

I've been on a dating site, Adultfriendfinderm for about 3 months; it's been nothing but frustration. The people there, men and women. are flaky. I've had singles and couples contact me, seem interested, and stop talking to me without any explanation. Also annoying are the almost impossible standards many of them demand.

[JaredT77]

I've been on a dating site, Adultfriendfinderm for about 3 months; it's been nothing but frustration. The people there, men and women. are flaky. I've had singles and couples contact me, seem interested, and stop talking to me without any explanation. Also annoying are the almost impossible standards many of them demand.

Yeah I hate it when that happens when they seem to lose interest in you. Since I am in a relationship myself with a open minded female, I have some boundaries that I have set for when I meet men. If a man doesn't like them, then I have to move on to the next guy. I have to put her first before any man because I am committed to her. These boundaries were agreed by both her and I too.

My boundaries are:
1) Condoms must be worn by the guy(s) fucking me.
2) No women allowed in the same room if a guy is fucking me.
3) Videos must be taken if a guy fucks me so my fiance can enjoy watching.

I would say the fourth one was to be no multiple sex partners but I don't think she cares about that one anymore. Lol!

[bithesea]

I feel the same way as you do. I like to chat and get to know someone before actually meeting up with someone. Especially if it comes to sex. I think it's normal to ask questions, but apparently I might have offended that dumbass Mike. And I was talking to him about my frustrations of other guys and their drama.

I am kinda nervous about the bar scene because what if they're not gay or bisexual and just looking to commit a hate crime with me as the victim? What if they're some creep with STDs and looking to have sex and don't care if they infect me? What if they're the type that wants to kill me after sex? It's just more scarier than the online chatting.

I can't tell you the number of times I have asked someone, on the few internet dating sites I've frequented, about their STD status. I get answers like, "Cool." or "let's keep in touch."
Really? We're never going to be touching in the first place, asshole!

That reminds me, it's time to get tested again . . . I've been safe, but I have others to think about, too.

[JaredT77]

I can't tell you the number of times I have asked someone, on the few internet dating sites I've frequented, about their STD status. I get answers like, "Cool." or "let's keep in touch."
Really? We're never going to be touching in the first place, asshole!

That reminds me, it's time to get tested again . . . I've been safe, but I have others to think about, too.

Damn! Really??? That's awful because by law if they have STDs and especially HIV+ or AIDS, they are required by law to be upfront about it. At least on these dating sites and apps, they say if they have any sexual diseases. The scary part is at a bar, you can pre-screen these people before they start talking to you.

I might need to get tested too. Good point!

[bithesea]

HIV is actually not so easy to contract, but chlamydia, the new treatment-resistant gonorrhea, herpes of various flavors, hepatitis C, and of course, that old favorite, syphilis, are all very easy to get. AND, the carrier may not be symptomatic, and may not even suspect they are infected, especially if they ignored any early symptoms. Not very many people actually get to the AIDS stage in the USA anymore, BTW.

[JaredT77]

HIV is actually not so easy to contract, but chlamydia, the new treatment-resistant gonorrhea, herpes of various flavors, hepatitis C, and of course, that old favorite, syphilis, are all very easy to get. AND, the carrier may not be symptomatic, and may not even suspect they are infected, especially if they ignored any early symptoms. Not very many people actually get to the AIDS stage in the USA anymore, BTW.

To me, it doesn't matter what they have, as long as they are upfront and honest about it. And they better wear a condom regardless. If they do have ANY STDs then I'm just not interested. I have a fiance and she comes before anybody else. She does NOT want some guy fucking me and then passing on to me a disease. She DOES want men fucking me but health and safety first and she is a RN.

[Coastocoast]

Be it an app, a chance meeting, here, Craigslist or elsewhere, having the big talk is 100% essential and then take things with a grain of salt to say the least. Put a helmet on the soldier before you send him into battle and get tested together if it looks like you have found a regular partner. If the warning lights and buzzers go off in your head, listen to them! It is not worth getting cooties over at the minimum, catching a permenent problem or dying over. Be Safe!

[pole_smoker]

My gay and bi male friends who are single avoid hookup apps because of crazy people like you met Jared. They also avoid couples since there's way too much drama with them, and often times one person in the couple will want to cheat on the other one.

Instead they just use websites like Adam 4 Adam, where you have to register, fill out a profile, and put up a profile pic, and the person can't call you unless you give them your phone number.

Have you ever been to a gay/LGBT bar? They're not like you fear, and you won't meet people at them like you're scared of meeting.