Denial example I read today, and also a self imposed sexual identifier that threw me

[PantyWhore]

I read on another forum about "the club for guys who crave cocks but aren't attracted to men." One member explained that he is a masculine man and wants only other masculine men, and not any fem boy types. I couldn't help replying to him and reminding him that he is still gay if he sucks cock and then I took some scolding from people saying I was closed minded and judgemental, whatever. I replied back that he was at least a cocksucker, am I right?

The next funny thing I read from someone on this site that said that they are gay but bi-curious. Whatever. Just go get some cock and pussy. Safety is number one!

[Brian]

5243Sexual attraction is one complex topic - it covers a broad spectrum of behaviours and feelings. But I am with you - I see no problem with describing the desire by a man to suck cock as falling under the umbrella of homosexuality/bisexuality.

I think many guys on this site, myself included, can relate to one degree or another to the club member you described - a lot of bi guys are not into body contact with other men, and/or are not into kissing other men, and/or do not like effeminate men.

For the longest time I was not really into body contact - but over time I have come to really dig it.

- Drew :paw:

[*pan*]

if they are bicurious , then time will tell if they are bisexual, that's why i don't like labels. if a person sucks one or a few cocks then decides they don't like it and don't want to do it again, does that make them gay or bisexual ? no it dose'nt, bi or gay would desginate their sexuality not what they have done. society loves to label people and this is wrong. like anything else a person starts out curious, then the actual act but it still dose'nt mean they are bi or gay until they decide that is what they want and like and continue to do it. if a person steals once or gets drunk once in their life do they deserve to be labeled for life as a thief or drunk, no they don't. if a male person craves cock then they a either bi or gay because this is their preference and sexuality. they crave it, desire it and want it. people will always have preferences, young only old only slim only suck only whatever they still desire the same sex contact.

[tenni]

I've read about guys(many actually) who are only interested in the cock and not the entire body of another man. Although, I agree that self identification is best, I do see a role for labels.

If a guy calls himself a heterosexual and sucks cocks more than two or three times, he is not being completely truthful? This is especially true for guys who say that they are straight but like to suck cock. At fifty sexual encounters of sucking cock with other men is he a hetersoexual even if he calls himself that? A guy who says that he is bisexual but doesn't want sex with another man of any form may be a bisexual but what's the significance of that self labelling? if the bisexual man only wants platonic interaction with men and women, does it matter? It might to the other person if they want to have you suck them or have you fuck them up the butt...lol Oil and vinegar situation.

Listening to a person and how they describe their sexual interests may be more significant than what label they use. They may misrepresent themselves.

I agree with drew that your sexual interest may evolve as you become more comfortable accepting your sexuality. I'd not kiss a guy when I started exploring my bisexuality. Now, I won't have sex with a guy if he isn't interested in kissing. I don't care about sucking cock but like to be sucked. If I can get away without sucking, I will..lol(bastard that I am ;). No dick goes up my butt. I'm bisexual though.

[Gearbox]

Masculinity!:tongue: Maybe that's what drives some men to want to suck their cocks? Even though they don't want to kiss them, or run their tongues down their spines and enter their 'Man VJJ'. (Sorry! Had to use that word!lol).
Just want that masculine cock in their masculine mouths, while the cock owner does nothing to diminish their masculinity (in their view?).
I don't know! Masc & Fem? What's it all about?:suave: I'd rather fuck a masc bloke with an ok body, than a fem bloke with a HOT body. Why is that? I'm fucking their masculinity just as much as I fuck their body, or more so.
Got a headache now!LOL!

Well anyways, sucking a cock doesn't make you gay. Only liking same gender makes you gay. That's why you don't hear of many gay men who love to lick ladies fangitas or lesbians who are cock mad.lol

[elian]

Sorry for some reason, VJJ sort of reminds me of this..


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=axm__GqW5Mo

(hehehe..in the related clips there's a scene from "Jaws 5: Fire Island" )

I do know that some men are not romantically/emotionally attracted to other men, but still get off thinking about cock. I also know some men who think it's okay as long as they are dominate. Is this right or wrong? I can't tell you. Are they in denial? I can't tell you. Are men programmed to always compete around other males and not show any "weakness" ? I can't tell you...but it makes for a pretty sad state of things if men feel they will lose power by showing affection and compassion.

Of course, maybe they get turned on by the thought of power..wouldn't be the first time THAT'S happened, would it?