not into anal intercourse? [Archive]

DiamondDog

Jun 1, 2006, 7:15 PM

Flounder1967

Jun 1, 2006, 7:21 PM

I myself say it you like than it''s o.k., but as for rare i don't think so. I seen a few people stat thiat in there profiles.

bobthecat69

Jun 1, 2006, 8:30 PM

I also am not into giving or recieving anal>but do like oral ,masturbation,and kissing :

glantern954

Jun 1, 2006, 8:35 PM

Not into that stuff either

willbeyours2

Jun 1, 2006, 8:38 PM

I personally love anal sex, but I think it is a personal preferece. As the saying goes whatever floats your boat. Do what you feel comfortable with, relax and enjoy.

Curiious4More

Jun 1, 2006, 9:08 PM

frottage? Should I know what that is? lol Never heard that term before...

JohnnyV

Jun 1, 2006, 9:45 PM

I have zero interest in anal. And you def. don't have to be into anal to be bi.

J

explorers2006

Jun 1, 2006, 10:58 PM

I don't mind being rimmed or fingered but don't like anal

tony455

Jun 1, 2006, 10:58 PM

i rather receive,but not really into it

bijenna08

Jun 1, 2006, 11:25 PM

frottage? Should I know what that is? lol Never heard that term before...

Frottage is normal sexual activity without penetration that can include any form of sexual rubbing, whether naked or clothed, for arousal or orgasm.

Frottage, more commonly known as dry-humping is the act of acheiving sexual pleasure with a partner without penetration. This can include using almost every part of the body, including the buttocks, the breasts, thighs, feet, hands and even contact between sexual organs.

Properly frot is the technical term for male-male genital sex.

Hope this helps Curiious! :bibounce:

Curiious4More

Jun 1, 2006, 11:37 PM

ahh, i see. well why not just say dry hump in the first place, lol...

gthommo

Jun 2, 2006, 10:39 AM

Anal? Love it when I want it but I don't always want it. That's the best of being gay - nothing is compulsory and everything is sex.

justmej

Jun 2, 2006, 10:55 AM

I have to say that anal doesn't do anything for me. Not as a fantasy or reality. I have tried it once and that was that. I have been fingered a few times while receiving oral in the shower and did find that enjoyable. Rimming also does nothing for me. What does it for me is lots of kissing and hugging and feeling and seeing a hard cock against mine. Mutual J/O and lots and lots of oral ending with a very nice mouthful is what I enjoy. Then ending with a nice hot shower together. Sorry but the anal thing just doesn't do it for me.

jedinudist

Jun 2, 2006, 12:02 PM

I have been told that I am very "rare" because I am not into anal intercourse.
When I was younger I thought that there was no way I could be bi because I had no desire to have anal intercourse and I thought that if you are gay or bi you had to do anal intercourse.

I use small toys, enjoy being fingered once in awhile, and I would like to be rimmed but I don't consider those sex acts to be intercourse even though they involve the anus and putting things into that orifice. I do consider them to be sex though.

I am more into oral sex/mutual masturbation/frottage/other sex acts.

Is anyone else here like me?

I guess I am. Although I enjoy the gentle finger back there once in a while, I must admit that I have tried anal a couple of times and never liked it.

I love oral, mutual oral, mutual masturbation, etc., but just can't stomache the idea of trying anal again. I don't like to "pitch" or "catch".

Despite the fact that I do not like anal sex and would refuse to engage in it anymore, I can assure you, I am definately Bisexual. You don't have to do everything a certain group does in order to be a legitimate member of that group. :)

Just my humble opinion ;)

shaver6

Jun 2, 2006, 1:09 PM

I'm not really a fan of anal myself. I have tried receiving, but I am just to tight back there to make it a pleasurable experience As for giving..I will do that, if my partner requests it..but its sure not at the top of my list. On the other hand, I do like a little anal stimulation..a gentle finger massaging my hole, just to add to the pleasure of other things being done to me..

Oral sex, mutual masturbation, are still at the top of my list...less preperation,..less messy...less clean up....

Spicy

Jun 2, 2006, 5:26 PM

I am also not into anal intercourse. I have watched films where anal intercourse is performed and must admit that i am curious about it but am afraid to try it for the fear of the varouus risks, but i do love slow masturbation when i am being stroked and come one drop at a time, oral sex and fingering. :tongue:
Spicy

grindnkiss

Jun 2, 2006, 6:56 PM

Ive chatted with a lot of guys who claim they're not into anal. I've never had an interest in it. Im turned on by frottage, handjobs, oral, massage, body contact in general. So, I don't think you're alone in that respect

guycurious

Jun 2, 2006, 9:36 PM

Haven't had the opportunity to try the real thing yet. My wife has used a strap-on a few times but I still desire the real thing.

She doesn't know about this 'side' of my sexuality yet. Hopefully, someday I will work up the courage to tell her and hopefully she is accepting and willing to expand out sexual horizon.

The self inflicted prison I live in......

bhg08054

Jun 3, 2006, 12:43 AM

JohnnyV

Jun 3, 2006, 1:30 AM

I stumbled across this site a while back: http://g0ys.org/

I happen to enjoy anal myself, but it was informative to read about the feelings and beliefs of those who don't. I did feel though that this group was too intolerant of people who had other feelings or beliefs though. Just because you don't like something shouldn't make it okay for you, or the government, or whomever to tell me I can't enjoy it!

I clicked on your link and visited the site. God, I wish the people who organized that site could tone down their bile a little. They have some good points about the problems of equating gayness with anal sex. But they come across like ranting psychopaths.

citystyleguy

Jun 3, 2006, 1:36 AM

i have done it and had it done; if done right it is so very fine, done wrong, it's one big pain in the ass. as most people who do it only think of the anus as an inverse vagina, 99.999% of the time it is done wrong. dildos and
strap-ons often prove to be the best, as the object, the dildo, compels the user to practice better techniques; women are much better at anal intercourse with a strap-on than a guy with a dick, as once again the object compels a different technique.

try it with someone who is willing to listen and practice, you'll find out much better as to what you enjoy; but best yet, practice only with what you like and feel comfortable! good luck!

citystyleguy

bigregory

Jun 3, 2006, 1:51 AM

I find anal play to be one of the most enjoyable things in world.
Fingers, tongues,dildos and dicks its all good.
But i totally respect anothers wishes if hey don't want to be touched back there.To be BI or gay has nothing to do with one's ass. :rotate:

Sparks

Jun 3, 2006, 8:01 AM

Anal is not at the top of my list when I'm with a man, but I do enjoy it and If I were in the mood hop on and take me for a ride (man or woman).

citystyleguy

Jun 3, 2006, 3:19 PM

I clicked on your link and visited the site. God, I wish the people who organized that site could tone down their bile a little. They have some good points about the problems of equating gayness with anal sex. But they come across like ranting psychopaths.

so did i; spent a good part of the night reading, exploring, and considering the intent and content. i have to admit that much of what it expresses is what i have been looking for in my relationship with another man. far too many sites are nothing more than free-access sex personals with minimal content; this site, bisexual.com, though has that to a small degree, but there is far more activity here than the norm.

as to the stridency of g0y.com, unfortunatley it carries its message within the context of religion (but that focus is on the warrior culture/religion, than the hysteria of fundamentalists); religion seems to be a periennial soap-box for those on a one-way mission, and if not careful, also may lead to uber alles mentality.

however, again i very much appreciated their direction, orientation, counter-balanced arguments, and their focus on male sexuality, masculinity and what defines it, and the expectation of disciplined behaviour and focused lifestyle.

for myself, i found it to be a breath of fresh air! to each their own, without the need to belittle anothers,

may peace be with you, my fellow seekers;

citystyleguy

dammad1

Jun 3, 2006, 6:53 PM

We agree 100%

CountryLover

Jun 3, 2006, 7:09 PM

As someone said - being bi has nothing to do with anal sex. My straight ex hubby loved it, so did my straight lover. Yet I know a LOT of bi/gay guys who don't participate in it at all. With the right person, I enjoy it, giving or receiving, but it's certainly not required.

IS there any one particular act that bestows "bi-ness" on you? Not in my opinion! :2cents:

DorianCT

Jun 3, 2006, 9:00 PM

Anal sex is a difficult call... I'd rather have it with a woman.. However, with the right guy can be pleasant too.. I assume it depends..

Being bi is definitely not about anal.. I know gay people who don't like bottoming either..

jo69guy

Jun 6, 2006, 6:01 AM

I myself enjoy anal, but know several gay men who don't. I guess it's all a matter of preference. If you don't like it, don't do it...... :2cents:

Biboz49

Jun 6, 2006, 10:36 AM

:2cents: I have to be in the mood for anal penetration. When I am, which is not often, it's enjoyable for a while. Then it's uncomfortable. Funny thing is I do fantasize about being penetrated. However, I totally love anal stimulation during any kind of sexual play. Gentle lubed fingertips stroking my ass, rimming, and a vibrator stimulating my ass, but not inserted. I also like giving and receiving oral, 69, masturbation (watching, being watched), mutual masturbation, rimming (giving and receiving). Who said you have to like penetration to be bi or gay? :rolleyes:

onewhocares

Jun 6, 2006, 3:26 PM

I agree with many who have come before me. First, what I enjoy, I would never force on someone who did not also share my pleasure for anal sex. I took a long time for my sweetie to try it with me, even though he loves having it done to him. For me being relaxed and in the mood means everything. I have only had the real thing and not a strap on so I can not compare the two. I am always working to perfect my skills with a strap on. I have been lucky and gotten some good advice from the folks on this site. Just be SAFE and Lots of Lube.

Belle

jazzer

Jun 6, 2006, 5:42 PM

I only do anal sex with my wife and then only rarely and I only do it because she enjoys it so much. She uses a douche and is very clean but I prefer vaginal sex. I rarely cum when I have anal sex but manage to stay hard so she can enjoy an orgasm.
Personally I have no desire to have anal sex with a man or have a man have anal sex with me. I do enjoy male touching, nipple stimulation, sucking a dick but not to completion (my wife usually finishes the guy off) and mutual masturbation (women all seem to really enjoy that). The male play is usually part of foreplay (which also includes foreplay with the women) and I always finish vaginally. I have only ever finished orally with a woman never a man.
The thing I have found is everyone is different and as you can see from what I have written, I am bi but probably only a 2 on the Kinsey scale because I still have a very strong attraction to women. My life without the love of a woman would be an empty one indeed.

:2cents: :)

timepga50

Jun 11, 2006, 5:36 AM

Personally,I do like anal sex.But as I read not everyone is into everything,and that's cool.The important thing is to talk with your lover and let them know what you like and don't like.Funny thing is ,while I like to recieve,I don't like to "top" as much.the bottom line is to have fun,enjoy yourselves! :tongue:

2curioustwo

Jun 11, 2006, 6:29 AM

Me - I like anal, but understand that many bi guys dont. The thing I find unusual is that some guys will call themselves straight because they don't do anal. Personally I have always found that confusing - to me a straight guy is someone who is never turned on by guys...

I guess thats the thing with labels - everyone interperets them differently so in the end they are not helpful.

Be happy in who you are and enjoy what you enjoy!

NightHawk

Jun 11, 2006, 7:34 AM

Anal with lots of lube can be heavenly.

APMountianMan

Jun 11, 2006, 4:49 PM

:cool: Really wish I was being done right now!

strawberry8302

Jun 12, 2006, 12:32 AM

Gtf outta here Diamond Dog, you are not "rare". Even though I'm a female, I don't like anal either. I've tried it many times, with different sized guys, and I just don't like it. Like you, I can take a finger or something small like it, but anal sex just doesnt feel good to me. Give me a tounge back there, and I'll holler! There are alot of guys out there who dont like anal sex, and dont you dare feel bad that you are one of them. Hugs n kisses all the way from nyc.

Nara_lovely

Jun 18, 2006, 9:04 PM

Not into it at all.
Doubt I ever will be.

Sexual choice and desires take priority over what someone else says you should do to be accepted and normal. On my first read...made me feel that the one who said you were rare, was baiting you and putting pressure on you for their own self-interest????

Go with your own feelings. Who knows, maybe with a partner one day...someone you really trust, the idea might change.

Till then: Be yourself. Enjoy the normality!

wildangel

Jun 18, 2006, 9:29 PM

I've tried it a few times and I've tried other phallic objects. Actual sex with a man-painful and not for me at all. I screamed within miliseconds. Anal sex with toys-simply not erotic. Oh, well. I don't feel I'm missing out on much.

APMountianMan

Jun 18, 2006, 11:17 PM

Like female ejaculation, male anal intercourse is a caring act. I wish every male could experience the joy of this kind of male sex, just as I wish every female got off on male penetration.

:cool:

Avocado

Jun 19, 2006, 5:04 AM

I have been told that I am very "rare" because I am not into anal intercourse.
When I was younger I thought that there was no way I could be bi because I had no desire to have anal intercourse and I thought that if you are gay or bi you had to do anal intercourse.

I use small toys, enjoy being fingered once in awhile, and I would like to be rimmed but I don't consider those sex acts to be intercourse even though they involve the anus and putting things into that orifice. I do consider them to be sex though.

I am more into oral sex/mutual masturbation/frottage/other sex acts.

Is anyone else here like me?

Me and my fiancee hardly ever have penetrative sex and it took us days to get it right. What I'm saying is it's 100% possible to be happy with someone when there's no penetrative sex with them. Consider lesbians and bisexual women - in female-female relationships, neither of them have bits but they can still live a fulfilled, happy relationship together.

twodelta

Jun 20, 2006, 3:15 AM

So far, I've only experienced anal with women. Not because I'm opposed to anal with men, just haven't had the opportunity yet. I'm sure that one day, that opportunity will arise, but until then, I'm more than satisfied with oral pleasures :bigrin: - Dave

DiamondDog

Jun 20, 2006, 4:05 AM

Me and my fiancee hardly ever have penetrative sex and it took us days to get it right. What I'm saying is it's 100% possible to be happy with someone when there's no penetrative sex with them. Consider lesbians and bisexual women - in female-female relationships, neither of them have bits but they can still live a fulfilled, happy relationship together.
I don't mean to flame/disrespect you but the idea that "women can't penetrate" reminds me of those straight men that have bisexual girlfriends/wives that they'll only allow to have sex with other women because they think that "women can't penetrate"; but they won't allow them to have sex with other men because in their minds "sex" only happens when a penis penetrates a vagina.

Maybe I'm just weird but "sex" to me is more than penetrating an orifice. I do not think of "sex" in the same way that straight people do like how they think of it as a penis in a vagina or an anus. Or at least lots of straight people my age, they don't see oral sex as being a sex act.

When I first started going to an LGBT bar and accepting my sexuality, an older queen who cruised me (I said no thank you because he is not my type) and I got to talking and he talked about how "making out is sex, oral sex is sex, mutual masturbation is sex..." and I agree with him.

I am not a woman so I can't speak for what most women who have sex with women do during sex for their sex acts, but they do penetrate using tongues, toys, fingers, and hands orally, vaginally, and even analy.

"Penetration" can happen in MANY ways. And frankly - unless someone allows another person past their emotional and psychological "walls" they are never penetrated in my mind. And THAT is very scary for a lot of people.

Avocado

Jun 20, 2006, 4:08 AM

I don't mean to flame/disrespect you but the idea that "women can't penetrate" reminds me of those straight men that have bisexual girlfriends/wives that they'll only allow to have sex with other women because they think that "women can't penetrate"; but they won't allow them to have sex with other men because in their minds "sex" only happens when a penis penetrates a vagina.

Maybe I'm just weird but "sex" to me is more than penetrating an orifice. I do not think of "sex" in the same way that straight people do like how they think of it as a penis in a vagina or an anus. Or at least lots of straight people my age, they don't see oral sex as being a sex act.

When I first started going to an LGBT bar and accepting my sexuality, an older queen who cruised me (I said no thank you because he is not my type) and I got to talking and he talked about how "making out is sex, oral sex is sex, mutual masturbation is sex..." and I agree with him.

I am not a woman so I can't speak for what most women who have sex with women do during sex for their sex acts, but they do penetrate using tongues, toys, fingers, and hands orally, vaginally, and even analy.

"Penetration" can happen in MANY ways. And frankly - unless someone allows another person past their emotional and psychological "walls" they are never penetrated in my mind. And THAT is very scary for a lot of people.

Then you've proved my point - you don't have to be into anal to be in a happy relationship with another man. Not sure about making out being sex. I'm not promoting it but are 2 15 year olds kissing having sex?

DiamondDog

Jun 20, 2006, 4:19 AM

Then you've proved my point - you don't have to be into anal to be in a happy relationship with another man. Not sure about making out being sex. I'm not promoting it but are 2 15 year olds kissing having sex?
I dunno about that.
everyone defines "sex" differently.
I wrote a bit about how I define it.

JrzGuy3

Jun 20, 2006, 4:28 AM

Then you've proved my point - you don't have to be into anal to be in a happy relationship with another man. Not sure about making out being sex. I'm not promoting it but are 2 15 year olds kissing having sex?I dunno about that.
everyone defines "sex" differently.
I wrote a bit about how I define it.

I think there's a distinction to made here. Are you asking if a pair of 15 year olds kissing is sex or if it's sexUAL?

Avocado

Jun 20, 2006, 4:52 AM

I think there's a distinction to made here. Are you asking if a pair of 15 year olds kissing is sex or if it's sexUAL?

I mean sex.

WestTennBiGuy

Jun 20, 2006, 10:11 AM

I had some guy in chat tell me I was gay because I liked anal sex, boy does he need to get a grip. I do enjoy anal, giving and recieving, only if it's done right for me.
I don't get off on doggie style if I'm on the recieving end. I do it so that my partner can enjoy it if that's what gets him off. I preffer being on top riding or on my back so that I can get more pleasure from it.

I Love sex with my wife, who is very anal also. Some of my best sex is with her. BUT, my best orgasms were during anal sex. To me there is NO better orgasm than anal, it leaves me weak afterwards.

As far as kissing, when we have sex with others we reserve kissing for ourselves.

We are not into pain. I've never had painful anal sex yet. I know some people have, but I believe it was because of fear and them trying to tighten there asshole to keep "it" out.

If you are curious and thinking of trying anal, don't just try one position, try several. You might find the one position that will give you the best orgasm of your life.

My 2 Cents Worth

Rob

:bipride:

wildangel

Jun 20, 2006, 12:19 PM

I'm with you, WestTennBiGuy. I don't think liking anal makes you gay (or bi for that matter). My husband loves anal (giving and receiving) and has no interest in other men whatsoever.

WestTennBiGuy

Jun 21, 2006, 9:32 AM

Thank you, Angel

NightHawk

Jun 21, 2006, 7:52 PM

A man can enjoy receiving anal sex without being gay or even having sex with a man at all. A woman with a strap-on can be a very fine experience. Or he may be the bottom to a male top and simply be bisexual, which is certainly not gay.

There is an idea that if a man is not heterosexual, then he is somehow a mixture of male and female components. Maybe some men are, but others are not. I am not. I am purely a man who enjoys sex with either women or men. I feel like and think like a man. Similarly, as a bisexual, I am not a mixture of a heterosexual and a gay man. I am simply a bisexual man. You cannot generate my thoughts and my feelings by any possible mixture of a heterosexual and a gay man. It will not work any more than you can generate me by some mixture of male and female.

So, WestTennBiGuy and wildangel make good sense to me. At least some subset of bisexuals are apparently not simple mixtures of gay and heterosexual!